Day 1 of 365

Happy New Year, everyone!

How was your first day of 2020?


Hubby and I rang in the new year with a great group of people last night. We made some new friends and had plenty of laughs. It was a night filled with great food, beautiful views, and good conversation. I wore a beautiful solid black dress with a leopard print, white pointy heels, a black coat, red lipstick, red nails, and my hair in a slick back pony tail with a black scrunchie. I felt magical. I hope to be able to up my fashion sense this year. It’s always so hard when you live in the gi! But I promise to try.


I watched some very interesting and entertaining shows in 2019. Some of my favorites included “You” and “Dirty John” from Netflix (both psychological thrillers/crime fiction series), 90 Day Fiancé from Hulu (reality TV), and one I didn’t get to but I was told was very good/interesting was “Game Changers” from Netflix (health documentary). What did you really enjoy watching in 2019?


I worked very hard on my creative business, Wild Needle Co, this year. I thank every person who supported my business in some sort of way whether it was a like, share, or comment on social media, inquiry, word of mouth, or a purchase. I hope to come up with new designs this year and finally open my online store. I have primarily sold through my Instagram @wildneedleco. Sewing was such a highlight of 2019. Setting up my little work craft space was the best thing I could’ve asked for. I am so thankful to my husband who sacrificed a small part of our studio for my happy place. I know that I am just getting started and have lots to learn about doll making this new year. I am especially excited to have practiced my product photography this year and to get even better with it in 2020.


Our first BJJ training session is tomorrow. Two back to back no gi classes and I couldn’t be more pumped. I definitely want to work on my control and wrestling these next couple of months. I am excited to really dissect my game. I want to work on everything I am not good at and strengthen everything I am comfortable with. I want to:

  • get out of my comfort zone and roll more with everyone.
  • Take care of my health so that I am less likely to get injured.
  • Get stronger.
  • Train smarter overall.
  • Get into spinning and yoga.


I learned how to get out of my comfort zone with clothing in 2019. I started to take better care of my skin and teeth. I sewed a lot which helped me to relax and caused me lots of happiness. But I want to do so much more in 2020! I want to drink more water, read more books, eat more vegetables and less processed foods, do more things that make me happy and expand my mind and skills. How about you?

What do you want MORE of in 2020?

Thanks for reading,


End of Year Update (3 min Read)

Hey everyone,

Didn’t time fly by so quickly this year? It seems that the older I get, the faster time goes by… or maybe that’s just my perspective. I hope you all had a wonderful year. I hope that it gave you some laughs, challenges that led to growth, and fun. Did anything new happen for you this year? I’d like to hear about it.

One thing is for certain, I did a lot of jiu-jitsu this year. This year I reached my first year at purple belt, competed for the first time at an IBJJF tournament, and taught more classes at our academy, Gomez Jiu-jitsu. I’m really starting to enjoy the teaching side of jiu-jitsu. It’s making me understand things a little differently and molding me into a more confident, observant, patient, and critically thinking individual.

There are times when a student can’t perform a certain technique 100% as expected for many reasons, and that’s completely okay. It’s not always about such cookie cutter techniques. Jiu-jitsu is for everyone, not just the young, athletic star. So I figure out a way to modify the techniques for different students and scenarios, and explain why or how they can work. I’m also teaching kids jiu-jitsu which is a fun challenge. I have to be the firm, “I mean business” instructor to ensure that these kids learn discipline and respect, but also the fun and down to earth coach that they can chat with about whatever crazy and silly things are on their mind.

I’ve seen both kids and adults grow in their jiu-jitsu so much this year. The other day a 5 year old did the most perfect technical get-up and my heart just about melted and burst at the same time. I love our team, and I love that we are growing together in all different ways. My goals this new year are to add more amazing individuals (kids and adults) to our team, compete again, and of course, improve my own game and increase my conditioning.

In other news…

I’ve also been working on my little creative side business, Wild Needle Co, Handmade Collectible Art Toys, which you can find by clicking here. I’ve been working on improving my products, marketing, and customer service. Creating and crafting brings me so much joy. It really feels like the perfect thing to be doing this time of the year. I am stacked with holiday orders at the moment and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I am very grateful for all of the people who supported Wild Needle Co. this year.

This coming year I would like to improve my product photography, increase production lead time, make more stock products, and get WNC a bit more social. I am having such a good time creating. I’ve set up a nice little space in my studio to do my work and it finally feels like a true creative business I’ve got going on. If you want to see anything specific in my shop this coming year, let me know in an Instagram DM or a comment here.

What are you up to these days? I hope you have a happy holiday season! Talk to you in the new year. And as always, thanks for reading!


My First Year at Purple Belt

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Yesterday was my Purplebelt anniversary 💜 It’s been a whirlwind of a first year, that’s for sure. At first I felt deserving of it… or so I thought. More so the IDEA of it because I was rudely awakened when I got tapped by a lower belt. (DUN DUN DUN) News flash! You still have to work hard when you get promoted!!! I thought I could just sit back and relax and NOPE Bahahaha. So then I felt VERY UNDESERVING of it, and since then we have been working hard on our relationship and guys… I’m pretty sure she’s the one😍 I am all sorts of GROWING🌱 right now, especially here ❤️ and here 🧠

Thanks to Professor Carlos for his teachings, coaching, opinions, feedback, hard talks, motivation and everything else. You’ve helped me so much with my game and my mindset. God bless you. Also thank you to my training partners because I can’t learn without them.

My game has changed dramatically from day 1 of whitebelt and these are my favorite things about the way I train at purple:

•Initiate first. When rolling with someone larger, stronger or more skilled, be the one to make the first move or chances are you’ll have to defend first vs attack first.

•Be relentless. If you shoot for a takedown and the person sprawls, don’t turtle🐢 up, COMMIT and drive forward until you put them on their 🍑.

•Believe in yourself✨ Try not to overthink, just trust your jiu-jitsu. Trust that it WORKS. There were times where I didn’t do this certain move/defense because I was afraid so and so would counter with this move/defense so instead I didn’t do anything and I got stuck. Take the risk🤪 and own it! 🙌🏽

All in all, this year has taught me that I can do hard things. I am stronger than I think and all it takes is belief in myself. This has improved my self love immensely. This art continues to mold me into an indomitable martial artist. How awesome it is to learn an art that has so much to give its practitioners.

Do you remember what your first year was like after your promotion? Did you love it/hate it? What did you learn? Leave a comment!

Thanks for reading!


Hi! It’s the First Day of Summer!

Good morning! Today is officially the first day of summer and half of the year has already gone by!

How are you feeling this month?

I am feeling refreshed. I took a couple sessions off from training to rest my knees. They were badly bruised and I had a hematoma on one of them from drilling a hard snap down. Although they are still bruised, the pain is tolerable enough to train hard again. I was hungry for it.

I couldn’t sleep last night due to some late night caffeine and training which had my brain all sorts of wired. Had a great training session last night. We drilled the anaconda choke from turtle to the darce choke from side control to mounted darce. I successfully executed the mounted darce during rolling so was pumped about that.

I woke up this morning in a good mood despite running on 3 hours of sleep. I will admit that I was listening to Christmas music on the way to training this morning. I’m not sure why I have been missing the Fall and Winter seasons lately. I am loving the summer weather but definitely missing the holiday spirit. I am hoping to hit up the beach some more this summer and do some drilling in the sand and good ‘ol relaxing. What are your favorite things to do or places to go in the summer? Let me know in the comments.

Just popping in to wish you a happy first day of summer! Put your sunscreen on and seize the day!

Thanks for reading!


April: What I’m up to

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Hey everyone,

It’s been awhile since I’ve written a blog post so I’ve decided to fill you in on some things that have been happening this month. Enjoy!

How I’m feeling:
I’ve noticed that I’ve been smiling a lot this month. Could it be the glimmer of summer approaching or perhaps the increase of water I’ve been drinking daily? Or maybe it’s my husband who is always making me laugh. Whatever it is, I’m feeling happy. I feel like I’m learning at a steady pace in BJJ and that is good enough for me! I’m getting a lot of vitamin D these days and it’s nice to be in social places in between training sessions. I’ve been smiling at every woman that passes, and they’re smiling back. It makes me feel fuzzy inside—like we’re part of an unspoken, powerful sisterhood. I’m feeling mentally strong, which is something I’ve always longed for. I know that any minute it could all change, but I am hopeful that these feelings of joy will always be with me, and if they are not, I’m confident that I will see better days because I’ve experienced this kind of joy. I hope you are happy wherever you are.

Health and Diet:
My good friend and fellow jiu-jitsu sister, Kayla, and I have been tracking our nutrition and training since the first of the month. For one week we tracked exactly what we ate—the good, the bad, and the ugly. It was easy to see how our nutrient intake (or lack of healthy nutrients lol) did not line up with our goals. I was barely drinking any water at all and eating mostly carbs. As soon as the second week hit, we both cleaned up our nutrition. I ate healthier foods, added more vegetables to my diet, refrained from sugary snacks (which is a tough one for me), ate more frequently, and began drinking at least 70 oz of water daily. The only thing I’m struggling with at the moment is beer. There are just too many good sour beers to try and I’m having trouble saying no lol. It’s all about balance though, right?
Supplements: Nutrasumma Fermented Pea Protein Chocolate with BCAA’s which I take upon waking up and sometimes before bed. Enzyme Probiotic Complex, Joint support with glucosamine, MSM, and chondroitin which I take twice daily with my largest meals.

Training and Exercise:
I am currently training Brazilian Jiu-jitsu daily and incorporating plyometric exercises into my warm ups and gym sessions. I usually lift at the gym 1-2 times per week but may start to increase those sessions.

My weekly sessions include: Mon/Fri: 8 classes in the GI. Tu: 2 classes of BJJ with strikes, self/weapon defense. Wed/Th 5 classes NO GI. 1 Open Mat on the weekend.
Favorite BJJ move this month: Clock choke, 1,2,3 boxing combo to double leg.
BJJ goal: Work on my set ups.
Favorite workout this month: Soft sand beach workout. Takedown drills to sprints.

Gym: Battle ropes, bosu-ball push ups, medicine ball wall throws, dumb bell shoulder press. Super set these 4 exercises. 3-4 sets, 10-15 reps. 2 mins rest in between sets.

What I’m reading:
The Microbiome Diet: The Scientifically Proven Way to Restore Your Gut Health and Achieve Permanent Weight Loss.

At first I was merely interested in bettering my health; so far 40 pages in it’s proven to be quite an interesting read! It turns out that balancing your microbiome is the “key to eliminating symptoms you might never have connected to your weight and the way you eat. Such as fatigue, anxiety, depression, brain fog, headaches, acne, eczema, congestion, frequent colds and infections, joint pain, and muscle pain.” It’s crazy to think that caring for our microbiome, the ecosystem of microorganisms (such as bacteria and fungi) in our bodies, could be the answer to achieving good health.

Who inspires me this month:
My friend Kayla @keylock_kay on Instagram is a web and graphic designer by day and BJJ bad ass by night. We have been each other’s accountability partner’s for the past month keeping each other on track with our goals and venting about all things motivational, girly, and of course BJJ. She’ll send me motivational quotes, post-training selfies, and photos of her meals. This motivates me so much! Find yourself someone with similar goals and you may achieve them faster! Thanks for being an awesome friend, Kayla!

Where to go:
The Grove on 3rd and Fairfax in Los Angeles is one of my favorite places to hang out. There is so much to see and do. Watch a movie at the theatre, relax and read at Barnes and Noble, go shopping, have a drink at the Farmer’s Market Bar, or enjoy live music in the grass while enjoying a snack.

Carlos and I taught a self defense seminar for a non-profit organization called, A Place Called Home, a youth community center that keeps teens away from the dangers and temptations of the streets and provides a safe place for them to relax, do homework and hang out with friends. One of the most anticipated events hosted there is Girl Power Day where a group of over 35 teen girls get together at the facility and take part in a full day of presentations and activities that inspire and empower them; one of those activities is Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. Carlos and I are surrounded by a diverse group of girls—some timid and stand offish, others not at all. These girls come from different backgrounds but for this hour and half, jiu-jitsu is uniting them.

Carlos and I also help teach jiu-jitsu at a women’s shelter. This location is kept secret for the safety of these women and children who have sought refuge there from abusive relationships. Most of the women don’t even speak English but jiu-jitsu is its own language and the best part is that it’s universal. The transformation some have made from day 1 to leaving the shelter is incredible. We taught this woman her last class before she ended her time there and she thanked us and the other Instructor for teaching her. I bawled, guys… She was SO shy and bashful when she started taking classes and now she was putting some grit into her technique and even encouraging other women with the way they did the technique. It’s just an indescribable feeling to see that.

It’s like magic seeing a woman witness her power when she successfully executes a jiu-jitsu technique. It makes me very emotional. Jiu-jitsu has done so much for me, and I wish that all women could find the gentle art and let it work its magic in their lives.

I am available for Jiu-jitsu lessons for women. No experience required. Take private classes at my Brazilian jiu-jitsu academy in Downtown Los Angeles and even invite a friend to train with you. You don’t have to be really strong or athletic; anyone can do jiu-jitsu and be good at it by using the proper technique and leverage. Try your first class for free. Also, if you would like to book Carlos and I for a women’s or co-ed self defense seminar for your school,organization, or work, let me know. Email me at with any inquiries.

Is there anything you want to hear more about? Let me know in the comments and I’ll include it in next month’s post.

Thanks for reading!

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Happy New Year!

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Day 2 of 365

Hi guys! I hope everyone had a wonderful December filled with lots of fun festivities, good company, and yummy food.

It feels refreshing to begin another year with endless opportunities. Doesn’t it?

Some of my goals for this year are to begin learning Portuguese and a little French with my husband, share my “becoming a blackbelt at life” and jiu-jitsu journey on this blog a whole lot more, read at least 10 books, design more whimsical characters for my creative business which you can find on Instagram at @wildneedleco meanwhile my website is under construction, get better at drawing, become more organized, put some more heart into my jiu-jitsu training, become stronger – physically, mentally and spiritually, and be mindful of mine and my little families’ (Hubby + teacup chihuahua’s) health.

What are some goals that you are looking forward to working on this new year?

Whatever you decide, make this the year you go for it. Why not? We’re only getting older. Although you may not get around to each one, I believe that accomplishing the things we dream about will bring us more peace and wisdom. It’s like a good workout – you may not always enjoy the process but the post-sweat feeling is rewarding and you don’t regret it. So may this be the year that you gain knowledge when you work on your goals and may the accomplishments fill your soul with peace.


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How I Got from White to Purple Belt in Under 4 Years

From left to right: My husband and Professor, Carlos Gomez, Professor Gerson Sanginitto, myself.

The short answer is I consistently trained. I put in 14-16 hours a week for the last couple of years not including teaching kid’s classes. Training 6 sometimes even 7 days a week multiple times a day, and actively sharpening up my technique.

I was awarded my purple belt this weekend. It came as a total shock to me and yes, I did cry. My husband called my name and I couldn’t believe what was happening. He pulls out a worn over-sized looking purple belt hiding inside of his gi and ties it around my waist. He then explains that the reason it looks the way it does is because it was his purple belt (He’s currently a blackbelt.) He has had some of his most important fights in this belt so it is very special to him and now to me. What an honor. My eyes just welled up, guys. We exchanged a loving kiss and embrace. It was then that I thought I am so lucky to share this journey with my husband.

He is my best friend and mentor, and as my Professor – he is my biggest source of knowledge and motivation. He knows what I’m capable of and has seen my growth. He encourages me to let go of my fears, be confident, and take risks. I’ve never had anyone do that for me.

My journey in jiu-jitsu started January 12th of 2015. I came in as the only woman in the class and a little intimidated, which is why I initially wanted to try a class. I was on this mission of self-love and learning to face things alone. Over 3 and a half years later, I am still relentlessly training and feel so much more confident than I was pre-BJJ.

When I first started jiu-jitsu. Right top corner you will see my long braid.

I don’t know much about what it takes to be a good purple belt yet, but I’m excited to share once I learn. I can, however, tell you how I went from white to blue to purple belt in under 4 years and hopefully you’ll leave with the slightest piece of information or inspiration.

White to Blue

Time spent: 1.5 years

Stay consistent:
I had a really good support system when I started training as a white belt. The first day, a couple of guys adopted me. I learned etiquette such as bowing when walking on and off the mat and scooting over as a courtesy if a higher belt is having a close roll next to you. I continued training jiu-jitsu because of the community. I met some really nice people the first couple of months and that kept me coming back to class. Even when I had to move back home over an hour away from my gym, I would drive every weekend to train. So once you find a reason to stay, go to class, stay consistent, show commitment.

Stay loyal to one academy:
I switched schools only a couple of months into my jiu-jitsu journey. I have now been with Gomez Jiu-jitsu learning under Professor Carlos Gomez for the majority of it. Once I changed schools, I dropped my anchor. I’m not saying don’t train anywhere else ever. I’m saying that if you stick to training at one academy, your instructor or Professor will be able to track your progress from the very beginning. If you bounce around schools, not only will you have to prove yourself over and over again, but you will have to put in the time and learn the different systems and requirements of each school.

Be coachable:
As a white belt, think of yourself as a blank canvas. You will be fed so much knowledge in this part of your journey and it is your job to just be open to learning. Respect your Instructor’s knowledge, they have been in your shoes before. Take constructive criticism. Ask questions. Observe all angles when the technique is being demonstrated. Have a good attitude. Don’t be afraid to get tapped out. Ditch the ego.

Ask your Professor how you can improve: It’s no secret. Your Professor or Instructor will tell you EXACTLY what you need to do to get better. It’s easy to fall under the radar if you train at a big school. Stay present on the mat and communicate with your Instructor. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know.

Drill your fundamentals:
Until you can do them with your eyes closed! I’m serious. Being mounted sucks. So don’t be there in the first place and if you are there, get out quick! Get really good at escaping mount and side control, bridging, shrimping, gripping, movements, controlling your breathing.

Use your technique:
Often times people get caught up using explosive power or being “spazzy,” using strength or athleticism. What happens when you’ve gassed out and aren’t the pumped athletic individual from the beginning of your roll? If you are this way, there is a good chance that you may be skipping details from your technique and forcing your way into positions instead. You may have success in this with other white belts, but it may come back to bite you when rolling with higher belts. You have to assure that you have a solid foundation of the fundamentals and are not skipping steps and building off of bad habits or athleticism from the very beginning. There’s a reason why jiu-jitsu is the most effective martial art, it can be done when you’re 8 or 80 years old. Don’t forget all those little details that your Professor focused on. They matter, and they’ll save your ass when you’re exhausted.

Blue to purple

Time spent: 2 years, 1.5 months

The best thing about blue belt was my increase in confidence;  something I struggled with as a young girl.

Train with all body sizes:
You will have to modify your techniques with each body type. Don’t get lazy thinking that it will work the same on everyone. Train with different training partners and experiment. This will allow you to have an answer for every situation.

Train as much as you can:
Two times a week isn’t going to cut it if you are serious about excelling in BJJ. Make the time and most importantly be consistent. I train at least 14-16 hours of jiu-jitsu per week. I have been training pretty much every single day for the past 3.5 years. Yes, there was a point during my blue belt where I didn’t enjoy jiu-jitsu, but I just kept going anyway. Professor implemented an attendance/curriculum card that would allow us to actually see our progress. I wanted my credit and I had a tangible way to track my progression so I just kept coming to class until eventually I fell back in love with it.

Train all aspects of Brazilian Jiu-jitsu:
BJJ is more than just a sport, it’s a lifestyle. If you are only training one aspect of BJJ, you are depriving yourself of imperative life skills. BJJ consists of four phases: Self defense (defending against an attacker/strikes), BJJ with the gi, no-gi, and weapon defense. There is no better way to truly test your BJJ and control than when you are put under stressful situations such as in our Tuesday night self defense class where someone is coming at you with strikes, a gun or a knife. We learn how to neutralize that aggressive opponent, disengage from the situation or finish him. If you aren’t learning everything, you better get started, pronto.

Learn how to flow roll:
Choose your partners to flow roll with. You can control the pace. If the person you’re rolling with is too spazzy, you can bring the pace down to your level using your control. Not every roll has to be to the death. Flow roll with higher belts. You can learn so much while flow rolling.

After a year and a half into my bluebelt, I started to realize that although I was technical, a lot of my training partners were also technical but stronger than me. It was time to add a little aggression and grit into my game.

Be aggressive:
After competing and losing, a fire lit up in me. I had the technique why couldn’t I win?! I had to work 10 times harder on my technique and also learn how to be AGGRESSIVE. That meant no more Mrs. Nice Girl playing off of my back, getting my guard passed and getting smashed. Instead I would work to be on top. I also had to work on my strength and cardio. You know who to roll light with and who needs some tough lovin’.

Work on your control:
If you control your opponent, you will break them mentally. Half the battle is done. Sometimes it’s not all about submissions, instead work on controlling positions. Tire your opponent out by controlling them then capitalize when they make a mistake or get distracted.

Finish what you started:
It’s easy to get a submission when you’re drilling but when the person is defending, it becomes more difficult so after you shoot that triangle, don’t switch to full guard if they defend a little, be aggressive. Break their posture, get the right angle, lock it up and don’t let go until you get the tap.

You know how they say when you teach something it allows you to understand the concept even better? It’s true. If you don’t already know, my husband and I own our own academy: Gomez Jiu-jitsu in Downtown Los Angeles. I began teaching there at blue belt and it has benefited my game in many ways. Firstly, it required me to grow. Teaching requires confidence. Confidence has only made me a better grappler in the worst situations. You must know how and why a technique will work and what to do when it is defended against. It made me understand techniques from a student perspective and also from an instructor perspective. What are some questions student’s might ask about this move or when trying it? If you are thinking about all of those things, you are learning a technique in an in-depth way even more so than if you were just drilling it solely from a student perspective.

Review what you have learned:
Do you ever find yourself in a familiar position for a technique but can’t quite remember how to execute it? It happens all the time. At the beginning of each class, we take 5-10 mins to review any techniques we want. Fundamentals, something we learned a long time ago, or something we’ve been dying to try. We grab a partner and work together to figure it out. It has helped me so much to revisit past techniques through videos as well. Ask your instructor if it is okay to record techniques. This will help you to stay sharp with all of the steps.

Create your own mantra:
Do you have any self-talk or affirmations? If not, it wouldn’t hurt to create some. Before I roll I ask myself if I want to be the hammer or the nail. Obviously, I choose the hammer. It puts me in a confident and dominant mindset and I find the most success in that headspace. Even if I get smashed, I know that I gave the roll my best and it fires me up for next time.

I now get to call myself a Gomez Jiu-jitsu purple belt!

The best way to level up is to continue working on your jiu-jitsu and enjoy the journey because it’s different for everyone! What did you learn from white to blue? Blue to purple? Brown to black? Let me know in the comments. Don’t forget to say hi on Instagram! Thanks for reading. Oss!


You Win Some You Learn Some – Reflection of my Jiu-jitsu Competition

Competing is such an intense experience. If you’ve ever participated in competitive sports, you know the feeling I’m talking about. Now, multiply that intensity by 100. I’m not kidding. You’ve got to be a special kind of crazy to compete in Brazilian Jiu-jitsu. Picture this. Your opponent is trying to take you to the ground, control you, break any moving joint in your body, and choke you unconscious. How’s that for some friendly competition? Despite the million miles per hour movement, heart rate, and aggression – when all is said and done, you shake hands, hug it out, and show deference, because win or learn, Jiu-jitsu works. We respect the technique and especially our training partners whom without we can’t learn and improve.

Yesterday I competed in my second Jiu-jitsu competition ever. I competed at white belt in 2016 and this was my first competition at blue belt now in 2018. Here’s the catch – I fought the same woman in both tournaments. Not just any woman; my own teammate. A tough, fast moving, strong and technical grappler. This woman is determined. When she sets her goal, she is determined to get it. I admire the hell out of her for it. We received our blue belts together and I am proud to say she is one of my greatest friends and best training partner. So when we realized we were going to fight each other again at an In-House tournament due to lack of female blue belt competitors, we knew we would put on a good show.

I didn’t do anything special to prepare for this fight. I train BJJ every day, a couple of times a day so I didn’t feel like I was lacking training. I didn’t cut weight. I ate whatever I wanted. I didn’t work out any different. I know that I will need to change this when I start competing in bigger tournaments such as the IBJJF.


My match wasn’t scheduled until about 1 PM so I had plenty of time to eat breakfast, get hydrated, and relax. I ate a half of a Mexican style sandwich with turkey, cotija cheese, bean paste, red onions, tomato, and avocado and a side of fruit. I felt satisfied which was a difference from my first tournament in 2016 where I ate just a bowl of oatmeal and was starving before my fight. I also had some pre-workout and lots of water so I had to pee like 10 times before 1pm LOL. TMI, but I know the lady practitioners will appreciate the honesty. I wasn’t nervous. I was actually just really excited to experience competing again. I’ve never been a really competitive person so I knew that if I’d win or lose, I’d be okay.

The fight went down like this: She shot for a double leg, I hit a reversal and ended up on top with an advantage then while trying to pass her guard, I got caught in an arm bar to which I tapped.

And that post fight feeling I had completely forgotten! Out of breath, hands cramped up, heart racing, exhilarating feeling… I want to do it again.

I made silly mistakes in my match and did things I wouldn’t normally do. Why? Probably due to the overwhelmingly fast-paced intensity. How does one think at such a rate? I guess it will come with more competition experience, learning from my mistakes, and muscle memory.

Although I didn’t get the win, I am proud of myself for going out there and competing. It takes courage to put your pride aside, step on the mat in front of a crowd, and give it all you’ve got. As for now, I will 1) nurse my elbow injury which could have been a lot worse, but I am grateful that it will heal in a couple weeks. I’ll have to observe it carefully and update you all on the status. I will 2) continue to train daily, most likely tie one arm up and not use it when rolling. I will 3) watch my video and address my mistakes. Isn’t that always hard the first couple of days after a loss? Watching what you did wrong or could/should have done – or is it just me? Lol. It’s painful, but it sure does make you hungry. Hungry to get back out there and do better next time. I will also 4) mentally and physically prepare better for my next competition.

Not only did I take valuable information from my own match, but from those of others as well. That’s the beauty of the game – you’re constantly learning. Here is what I managed to take in that I hope will be useful to anyone who wants to compete.

*“You’ve got to want it bad enough. If you didn’t win, you didn’t really want it.” That’s some powerful, eye-opening, tough love, band-aid ripping off, realization type of motivation from my Professor. It makes you want to get to work.

*Be aggressive. Don’t take no for an answer. I once asked my Professor what a good dialogue to have with myself in my head during rolling and he gave me this: “Just think. Do you want to be the hammer or the nail? This motherfucker is trying to make me the nail right now, but I’m the fucking hammer.” –Professor Carlos Gomez. Save the friendly rolls for training, turn it up in competition.

*Tap early if you need to. Your ego is not worth the injury that will follow the stubbornness to tap. I hyper-extended my elbow from not tapping early enough to the arm bar thinking I could still escape so that will cost me flexibility and range of motion in my arm for a couple weeks. Not being 100% is really annoying.

*Control the pant legs. I always do this in training so I am especially peeved at the fact that I didn’t try harder at doing this in the comp. One of the silly mistakes that cost me the match. I need to recite that to myself during the entire match. *annoyed face*

*Don’t talk back to your Coach or Professor if they give you feedback while you’re fighting. They’ve been there before, know more than you, and are only trying to help you win. Despite all that it’s also disre-fucking-spectful.

*If you’re thinking about doing something in your head, just DO IT! A couple of times I thought to myself of going for the takedown or kicking off the spider hook and I actually remember saying no. It was too late. While I’m having this deliberation in my head, my opponent just advanced their position. Shit.

*Don’t be afraid to take risks. This guy pulled off a flying arm bar. I spoke to him after, and he said he’d never done that before. I was afraid to get guillotined while going for a takedown, but I should’ve just taken the risk. Who knows. It could have turned out in my favor.

All in all, competing was a great experience! Definitely one I want to continue and improve upon. Thank you to all of my training partners at Gomez Jiu-jitsu, Gerson Sanginitto of Delta BJJ, and especially my Professor & husband, Carlos Gomez, who teaches me everything I need and more to succeed and believes in me whole-heartedly. I love you.

“A minor setback paves the way for a major comeback.”
–Saiyidah Aisyah Mohamed Rafa’ee, Singapore Olympic Rower

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25 Things I’ve Learned in 25 Years


I just celebrated my 25th birthday a couple of days ago! What an accomplishment. It feels oddly good to be 25, but totally weird that I’m in my MID-twenties (oh my goodness). I woke up this morning feeling like binge-watching The Bachelor on Hulu and not getting out of bed, but then I started to get hungry so I scrambled to the kitchen to make some oatmeal and drink my terrible-tasting yet healthy apple cider vinegar tonic. Blehhhhh. In an instant I felt energized. I thought ‘there is so much I can do today before work but if I sit in bed all day, today will be like all the other unproductive days, and I’m left grasping for time to do the things I love like read or write or craft! Immediately I began to put away the clean dishes, wash the ones in the sink, make some green tea, even meal prep some salmon and sweet potato in the oven. As I huddled back to my warm bed to eat my oatmeal, I felt refreshed and productive. So I am feeling really good about this whole 25 thing, and I just know that this will be one of the best years of my life.

It’s odd how things change. One minute you’re leaving the nest, and the next you’ve got all these experiences under your belt! There is so much I have learned in 25 years and so much I’ve yet to learn. Here are some lessons I think would be beneficial for anyone at any age. Enjoy!

  1. Communication really is important. We could avoid so many quarrels and misunderstandings if we just took the time to communicate and listen correctly.
  2. Reading is the best way to keep your brain working. Surely you have time to read one page a day. Use sticky notes to create notes of what you learn and apply it. Self improvement books are great!
  3. Chicken tikka masala is LIFE. If you’re not a fan of spicy foods, try mild. It’s delish!
  4. Let go of people who put you down, don’t see your value, or don’t dedicate time to you.
  5. Don’t shake a bottle of Kombucha (especially not in the car).
  6. Quit that job you hate, and follow your passion.
  7. Your past does not define you.
  8. Learn to be alone and be okay with it.
  9. Know how to defend yourself. Learn Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
  10. Not really digging the outfit you’re wearing or feeling totally blah? + Red lipstick.
  11. Your parents really do want the best for you. Call them often. (P.S. Your Mom was right)
  12. Forgiveness frees you. Forgive that person. More importantly, forgive yourself.
  13. Exercise. It’s therapeutic, and it releases endorphins which make you happy.
  14. Laughter is the best medicine.
  15. Take the tea bag out of your tea after seeping it if you want it to NOT taste like a dirty sock (not that I’d know what one tastes like or anything).
  16. Don’t wait to be “in shape” to do or start something. (i.e. wear a swim suit, go to the beach, start a fitness class etc.)
  17. Failure is a step closer to success. So fail; fail miserably.
  18. Try sour beer. Trust me.
  19. Pray and thank God every day.
  20. Everyone you meet knows something you don’t. If you have trouble networking or making conversation – think positively – this person has something to teach me; now go and find out what it is.
  21. You are allowed to put yourself first. When you take care of your health, your energy and enthusiasm will radiate towards everyone around you. You’ll have a better outlook on life, improve your work performance, strengthen your relationships and actually start to live your life in the present moment.
  22. There’s no use in crying over spilt milk.
  23. Know a little somethin’ somethin’ about geography.
  24. If you have a question about something or are asked a question you don’t know, google it. It will come up again in conversations with people. How awesome that you’ll know the answer?
  25. Set alarms and timers for EVERYTHING because you will forget.

Did I miss something? What lessons have you learned thus far? Let me know in the comments! Thanks for reading.

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Focused and Fearless 2018

I’m excited for a brand new year! Aren’t you? You’re either with New Year Resolutions or against them. Personally, I’m a big goal-setter so whether it’s the middle of the month or the end of the year, I love me some good goal plan & action inspo! There is so much magic in the air right now; everyone is motivated to finally crush some of their long anticipated aspirations. It’s the perfect time to get really focused on who we want to become and what we want to do this year. Let’s make this 2018 a memorable one!

Let’s live in the moment, take tons of pictures, spend time with our friends and family, challenge our comfort zones, take risks, make mistakes, and learn from them. Laugh it off, let it go, forgive others (and ourselves), travel and see new sights, get healthy and strong, take care of ourselves (mentally and physically) volunteer, get closer to God, learn new things, create, cook, read, write, network, adventure, and simply enjoy our life in the present moment. Don’t wait for a Monday or for you to get “in shape” – Start your growth journey now and allow yourself to become the best version of yourself – the woman that beats to her own drum boldly and unapologetically.

Actionable steps:

1. Make a list of all you want to accomplish and categorize your goals for ultimate organization.

2. Find accountability in a friend, family member or social media platform. (Send me an email if you want me to be your accountability partner!

3. Get to work on 2 goals per week. (In a month, you’ll have accomplished or made progress on 8 goals! Now imagine what you could do in 12 months?)

4. Journal your plan, thoughts, and progress along the way.


My 2018 Goals

Fitness & Brazilian Jiu-jitsu

  • Hit the gym 3 x per week
  • Spin 2 x per week
  • Train BJJ 5 x per week
  • Increase strength
  • Compete in BJJ 2 x


  • Gain 5 lbs of muscle
  • Drink green tea daily
  • Start juicing
  • Increase fruit & vegetable consumption
  • Decrease meat consumption


  • Read 1 book every month
  • Start a book club
  • Practice my Spanish

Life at Home

  • Paint the bedroom and hallway
  • Clean out my wardrobe
  • Donate to the Goodwill
  • Increase interior décor in apt


  • Get closer to God
  • Become more fashionable
  • Get creative with my hair
  • Experiment with make-up
  • Participate in photo shoots
  • Be the best wife I can be
  • Listen, support, and encourage my husband


  • Create a natural face-wash
  • Create a felt plushie line


  • Increase female students at Gomez Jiu-jitsu
  • Create an Etsy Shop


  • Calligraphy
  • Graphic design
  • HTML & CSS coding


  • Go camping
  • Go to Big Bear

Creating this dream personal attitude and lifestyle will take so much practice. I don’t know about you, but I’ll say “no” to risk a hundred times before finally taking a leap. That’s why I think it’s important and useful to remind myself (and you) of this goal planning process. I’m sending motivation your way so let’s get #focusedandfearless this 2018!

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